be guided by the student

One way of viewing a teacher is as a high status person who gives out lessons to their eager students. A teacher who views themselves in this way runs the risk of getting too involved in their own story of how great they are and how privileged their students are. They lose the chance to connect with their students.

Recently I was teaching martial arts to a friend and a girl of 10. I had my plan, my idea, and how I wanted the lesson to progress. I got so into my story that I missed the signs of my students losing interest. They picked up some hoola hoops and started playing with them instead!

If I had been more aware of my role as a guide, and been more focussed on where my students were, I could have switched to a new game and perhaps held their attention to what I was teaching.

Luckily for me, my friends found that a movement in the hoop that was very like what we had been practicing before. The hoola hoop break brought us back to the martial arts and I was able to finish teaching the idea I wanted to share.